Embracing Your Inner Kinkster: Exploring The World of BDSM Sex Toys and Tools

Calling all vixens and minxes! 

Most of us are at least a little bit kinky, especially if you’ve landed here. But tapping into that energy can be a little intimidating – especially if it’s new for you.

In the words of the great Rihanna “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me.”

We’re right there with you RiRi. That’s why we’re giving you our top tips for embracing your inner kinkster.

Know your boundaries

One of the most important things when you’re exploring the world of kink is to know your boundaries, and be able to communicate them.

Getting kinky can be exhilarating, exciting, and exotic, but it can also bring up a whole lot of unexpected emotions and intense sensations. That’s why it’s so important to explore with a partner or someone that you trust. 

Check in with yourself first. Reflect on what kinky fantasies have been running through your mind. If there are certain things you want to explore and if there are things you know are an absolute no for you.

Ask your partner to do the same then have a conversation where you thoroughly discuss what you both came up with – and where you’d like to start. This can be a hot conversation!

The thing is, sometimes we don’t know until we know – and that’s ok. You’re allowed to change your mind at the moment. We recommend making a safe word. It can be as simple as “blueberry”, in case you have a moment where things go too far for you.

Get your gear

Once you’re both on the same page, it’s time to get your gear. While you don’t need specific things to practice BDSM, having the right equipment can make a world of difference.

Are you intrigued by ropes and the world of shabari?

Do you want to be handcuffed to your bed while your partner has their way with you – or vice versa?

Does sensory play tickle your fancy?

There are so many ways to explore BDSM, and there’s something for everyone – no matter what your kinky little heart desires. 

Not sure where to start? We’ve got some recommendations. 

Restraint play

Sinking into that place of submission – or domination – can be soooo hot. Restraint play is often the stepping stone for many people into the world of kink.

You can restrain, or be restrained, with all sorts of things from rope to handcuffs to a pair of panties. Still, you have to be careful that whatever you’re using won’t put you or your partner at risk of cutting off your circulation or another safety concern. 

We’ve got the perfect solution – the Scrunchie Cuff. Besides being the cutest baby-pink accessory, the Scrunchie Cuff is a safe alternative to handcuffs when it comes to restraint play. 

Whether you’re new to restraint play or you just want a luxurious toy in the bedroom – you’ll want to add these to your BDSM toolkit!

Drip and pour with wax play

Looking to seriously heat things up?

You may want to give wax play a try!

First, grab one of our Kink Candles – candles handmade with a soy blend that’s safe for your skin. 

Then once you’re ready to get things going, you’ll want to start with the back and shoulders, then you can move on to more sensitive areas like the inner thighs and stomach. Make sure to keep the wax away from genitals, open wounds, the head, and the face. 

Keep communicating about what feels good, and of course, if it ever gets too hot or uncomfortable. 

Sensory play

Exploring different sensations can send you on a pleasure roller coaster. Tickling, pinching, poking – whatever gets you going.  

Let us introduce you to the Boujee Feather Tickler, the perfect way to explore sensory play in a luxurious little package. Give or receive tantalizing touch, thanks to its long, slender handle, and a delicate cluster of soft and fluffy ostrich feathers at the end.  

Tease and tickle everywhere – head, shoulders, knees, and even toes!

 

Explore your bondage dreams

Ready to up the ante and dive headfirst into the world of BDSM?

Then you may want the whole kit and kaboodle. The Aurora Vegan Leather BDSM Set that is. This set has a little something for everyone…

• Collar
• Leash with metallic chain
• Wrist cuffs pair 
• Ankle cuffs pair
• Double fixation buckle pair
• Ball gag strap
• Hogtie
• Blindfold
• Spanking flogger

No matter where you are on your BDSM journey, the Aurora Set gives you a buffet of options.

We hope that gave you enough to work with. Stay curious, explore, and enjoy!

 

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