When it comes to yonis, there's no “one size fits all.” Some lips are tucked in, others blossom outward, and many are a beautiful mix of both. Whatever your shape, size, or colour, your yoni is perfectly yours.
At Yoni Pleasure Palace, we believe that every vulva deserves to be celebrated, not judged, compared, or hidden. This is your sacred centre, your portal of creation, your source of deep pleasure.💗
There’s No “Normal”. Just Natural.
Labia’s come in an infinite variety of shapes. Some are short and smooth; others are long and ruffled. Some clitoris hoods peek out boldly, while others stay subtly tucked away.
Media (and porn especially) has historically shown us a very narrow view of what a vulva “should” look like. Usually a tiny, hairless, pink “innie.” But this is just one version of beauty. Yoni’s are richly diverse, deeply personal, and all equally valid.
The Pressure to "Look Perfect"
In a world increasingly filtered and photoshopped, it’s heartbreaking how many women feel their natural bodies aren’t good enough. This pressure extends beyond faces and waistlines, it’s now targeting our most intimate parts.
Did you know:
- Labiaplasty (surgical alteration of the labia) is one of the fastest-growing cosmetic surgeries in the world.
- According to the American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery, labiaplasty increased by over 50% among women aged 18–30 in the past decade.
- Many young women seek the surgery not for medical reasons, but to look more like the narrow ideal portrayed in porn or online.
This isn’t just sad, it’s dangerous. It sends the message that our most natural, sacred parts need to be changed to be accepted or desirable. But we say: No more.
Real Yonis Are Wonderfully Diverse
Let’s be clear: vulvas are like fingerprints, no two are the same. Some have longer inner labia, others have shorter outer lips. Some are symmetrical, some aren’t. Colours range from soft pinks to deep browns, purples, and reds. All of this is normal.
We love the book Flip Through My Flaps for this very reason. It's a joyful, empowering celebration of vulva diversity, filled with illustrations of real, unapologetic yonis. It's a must-read for anyone who has ever questioned whether theirs is “okay.” (Spoiler: it absolutely is.)
Practices for Reconnection & Celebration
Want to deepen your connection to your yoni? Here are a few gentle ways:
1. Mirror Work
Take a mirror, get cozy, and spend time looking at your yoni with curiosity and compassion. Notice shapes, textures, colours. Replace judgment with reverence. Wanting some support? We have a guided practice inside Golden Yoni Membership.
2. Yoni Mapping
Use a crystal wand or your fingers to gently explore internal and external areas. Go slowly, breathe deeply, and notice what sensations arise, without goals or expectations. We invite you to work with the Cervix Serpent, a sacred tool for deep connection. Let Rosie gently guide you through a step-by-step Yoni De-armouring journey, where the wand becomes an extension of your intention, presence, and self-love.
3. Speak Affirmations
Try phrases like:
- My yoni is sacred and beautiful.
- I honour my body and its wisdom.
- I release shame and invite deep pleasure.
- There is real beauty in diversity. I am beautiful because I am different.
Try our Neuro-Pleasure Rewiring Activation. This 16 minute meditation practice helps you shift out of shame and into sovereignty, one neural pathway at a time.
4. Use Yoni Tools with Intention
Crystal wands, yoni eggs, or pleasure wands aren’t just tools, they’re sacred allies. Use them in ritual, pleasure, or healing practices to connect more deeply with your body.
In a culture that profits from our insecurities, choosing to love your yoni as she is becomes an act of rebellion. A reclamation. A return to truth.
We live in a world where more and more young women are being told their natural bodies aren't good enough.
Whether you’ve got an innie, outtie, or somewhere gloriously in between, your yoni is worthy of love, exploration, and celebration. Your vulva is not too long, too dark, too anything. She is the embodiment of divine design. So let this be your invitation to explore her, speak kindly to her, and cherish her. Let this be the moment you say: I am enough. I am whole. I am beautiful, as I am.
And if you ever doubt it, remember: you’re not alone. You’re part of a glorious, wild, diverse sisterhood of vulvas and every single one of them is worthy of love. Your body, your pleasure, and your voice all belong. Own them with confidence and joy.
With love & acceptance,
The YPP Team.
Blog Written by Guest Contributor Mikay.
