We talk a lot about female pleasure around here. After all, we are called Yoni Pleasure Palace.

That being said, we believe everyone deserves access to pleasure, and more than that –– education and empowerment about their pleasure.

Pleasure can be completely transformative, yet sometimes when you’re just going through the motions, you miss out on the nuances of pleasure that are possible. 

That’s often the case for men and folks with penises. 

1) Deprogram your understanding of male orgasms

In a heteronormative world, it’s often that coming is the end all, be all of sex. That once a man ejaculates, the job is done –– especially when it comes to penetrative sex.

We’re here to tell you that "coming" is not the ultimate prize or goal when it comes to sex. This male-centric view takes away pleasure from both males and females alike. 

No, the purpose of sex is to tap into pleasure and create a deeper connection with yourself and your partner. When you’re able to deprogram your understanding of male orgasms –– you can start to experience new levels of pleasure, both by yourself and with your partner.

2) Learn about the types of male orgasm

Do you mean there isn’t just one type of orgasm? 

That’s right! Just like females, males can have different kinds of orgasms. The three ones (that we’re aware of) are ejaculatory, non-ejaculatory, and prostate orgasms.

The ejaculatory orgasm is the one that we’re all well aware of. This is, of course, when ejaculation and orgasm occur at the same time. It happens by stimulating the penis and scrotum. Men typically need a break after this type of orgasm, this break is called the “refractory period”.

The second type of orgasm is the non-ejaculatory orgasm (yes they exist). This type of orgasm can be reached by stimulating the penis, but also by stimulating the pelvic nerve via the anus and the area around it. Much like with an ejaculatory orgasm, you’ll feel a feeling of release and movement of the pelvic floor muscles, minus the ejaculation. Men can have multiple orgasms this way –– even energetic full-body orgasms!

Further up the rectum, you can also explore prostate orgasms. This walnut-sized gland is a portal to pleasure, and when stimulated –– can cause intense orgasms

3) Start to explore

Now that you know about all the types of pleasure available to you and your partner –– you probably want to explore!

To experience new types of pleasure, it’s important to practice softening and being more present in your body and with your partner. You can do this by massaging each other, taking a bath, and generally being intimate (outside of sex). You’ll want to be especially relaxed when it comes to anal play –– and be sure to use The Anal Lubricant ($54 AUD) for a smooth and silky experience.

 

This Couples Tantric Eye Gazing Guided Audio Meditation ($33 AUD) is a transformative 21-minute audio experience designed for couples who want to connect on a deeper, more profound level. This ritual guides you through a journey of mutual presence, vulnerability, and energy exchange, allowing both partners to open fully to one another and cultivate true intimacy.

 

One of our favorite toys for exploring prostate orgasms is The Nero ($149 AUD). This multifunctional toy is perfect for prostate stimulation –– the smooth head of the massager delivers sensual pleasure, while the ridged end cups the balls for additional delight. Use its sleek remote control to explore a world of ten-frequency double vibrations, each tailored to your desires.

 

Looking to ease your way into prostate play? The Medusa ($97 AUD) has a four-tiered bulbous end that allows for a gentle way of exploring anal play in a gradual manner, easing the anal sphincter over one ridge at a time. 

 

The Benny ($69 AUD) is another favorite for prostate pros and beginners alike! Made with a flat base for safety (this remains outside of your body always) and with a perfectly shaped tear-drop bulbous head, it's the lengthy neck that sets this butt plug apart from the rest. It takes a little longer than our other options for those who enjoy or want to try a deeper sensation.

 

We have even more juicy info on the expansive world of male orgasms inside The Golden Yoni Membership. There you’ll find an interview all about male pleasure with professional sex coach, Cam Fraser.

Go at your own pace and revel in over 14 modules of sexually empowering masterclasses, tutorials, guided meditations, guest interviews and practical yoni egg exercises plus a monthly women's sister circle on Zoom on the first Wednesday of every month. If you desire consistency, connection and community, this VIP Golden Yoni portal is the perfect place to be. Sign up now for only $40/month with no lock in contracts.