They say the eyes are the window to the soul and that sure is true when it comes to connecting to your partner.

Staring into someone’s eyes can help unlock new levels of intimacy, passion, and closeness. You may feel emotions and things start to stir and unravel, making space for deeper levels of connection. 

Eye-gazing creates this feeling of giving and receiving, with such a seemingly simple, yet incredibly deep act. 

This eye-gazing ritual can be used when you’re feeling off-rhythm with each other or just want to deepen your connection with your partner. Here’s how to create an eye-gazing ritual for you and your lover.

1) Set your intentions

Because eye gazing is such an intimate practice, it’s important to be intentional about all aspects of it. The where, when, and why. 

The “where” is creating a space where you both feel safe and secure. It’s nice to create a little nest where you can both cozy up and get comfortable. Find a nook, and grab some blankets and pillows. Our Furlush Waterproof Splash Blanket™ ($99.99 AUD) are the coziest ones around!

“When” means carving out time where you can both sink in and relax without being stressed about work, kids, or needing to be somewhere. This can be in place of your regular date night. 

And the “why” means really checking in with yourselves and each other about why you want to practice this. Do you feel disconnected lately and need to check back in? Do you want to deepen pleasure in your sex life? Do you just want to explore and try new things with each other? It can be helpful to journal about it before sharing it with your partner.

2) The eye-gazing practice

Once you both feel comfortable and clear about why you want to try eye-gazing, you can actually start with the practice.

1. Sit down across from each other in the lovely nook you’ve created.

2. Start by looking into each other’s eyes for one minute (you can set a timer or pick a short song).

3. Notice the physical details about their eyes like the colors and pupils, etc.

4. Then start to look into their eyes and notice how it feels for you and what comes up. Do you feel nervous? Do you feel close and seen? What feelings are coming up for you?

5. Reflect on the experience with each other.

6. You can then start to slowly increase the time.

3) Try a guided meditation

If you want to go deeper into the practice, you can also try a guided meditation.

This Couples Tantric Eye Gazing Guided Audio Meditation ($33 AUD), guided by Rosie Rees, allows you to deepen emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy with your partner.

 

This transformative 21-minute audio experience is designed for couples who seek to connect on a deeper, more profound level. This ritual guides you through a journey of mutual presence, vulnerability, and energy exchange, allowing both partners to open fully to one another and cultivate true intimacy.

Incorporating the wisdom of Tantra, this practice harmonises the feminine and masculine poles within both individuals (no matter your genders), fostering balance and deepening your emotional and spiritual connection. Through intentional breathing, eye gazing, and focused energy exchange, you’ll enter a state of presence that transcends the physical realm.

4) Get ready for deeper intimacy

Warning: eye-gazing can open the doors to deeper and deeper levels of intimacy and pleasure. So you might want some toys on hand to continue the experience!

Our Obsidian Curve Crystal Dildo ($189 AUD) has a gentle bend that follows the vagina’s natural curve and a bulbous tip for g-spot and cervical stimulation and –– unlocking deeper vaginal orgasms. Black obsidian is known for its deeply healing properties and when used as a couple, can help you heal together through pleasure. 

 

These Suki or Flick Cock Ring Vibrators ($110 AUD) add pleasure for both partners during foreplay and sex. Designed to wrap around a penis, pleasure wand, dildo, or strap-on, the Flick stimulates the clitoris in a tongue-flicking fashion and the Suki stimulates the clitoris tongue-sucking fashion.

Whether you’re new to Tantra or looking to deepen your connection, an eye-gazing ritual invites you to surrender to the moment, open your heart, and give and receive with intention.

If you want to learn more about the practice, we also have an article on it inside The Golden Yoni Membership!

 

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