Prostate Orgasm 101: What They Are and How to Have One


Have you ever heard of a prostate orgasm? This lesser-known orgasm can be an awesome gateway to pleasure that is worth exploring. Here we'll look at what a prostate orgasm is and how to achieve one -- or help your patner achieve one.

What Is the Prostate?

The prostate, also known as the P-spot, is a small gland that is responsible for producing the seminal fluid in ejaculate.

As a muscular gland, it helps propel semen from the penis. It is also surrounding by nerve endings that can allow for some pretty awesome pleasure potential when touched just right.

Where Is the Prostate?

The prostate can be found about two inches inside the rectum, between the penis and the rectum.

How Do You Find the Prostate?

The prostate can be stimulated through anal play or indirectly through the perineum, the skin that runs beneath the scrotum to the anus.

What Does the Prostate Feel Like?

How the prostate feels depends on whether you are feeling it from the inside or outside. Arousal causes it to swell, making it easier to find.

From the outside, it feels fleshier and softer. You are aiming for the area where the perineum is firmer, near the inner ending of the shaft (near the front of the penile bulb).

While you may not necessarily feel the gland, stimulating it will cause the feeling of needing to pee. This sensation is a good sign that you are in the right area.

From the inside, the prostate feels like a fleshy area of tissue on the front of the lining of the rectal wall.

Is It Easy To Have a Prostate Orgasm?

Having a prostate orgasm will take patience and practice. As every body is different, it will take a good amount of experimentation to find out what feels best. As with any type of orgasm, enjoy the journey to getting there!

What Is a Prostate Orgasm Like?

It is said that P-spot orgasms feel similar to penile orgasms but more intense and a full body experience.

Some even describe it as a super orgasm that feels like a stream of continued orgasms that make the entire body shudder with pleasure.

Not all prostate orgasms cause ejaculate, but some do report a small amount of milky fluid dripping from the urethra.


Does Prostate Stimulation Hurt?

Minor discomfort is normal as you first explore anal penetration and try to find what feels best, but you should not experience severe pain.

How To Stimulate the P-Spot

Whether you are going solo, receiving stimulation, or giving it, here are all the tips you need to know for getting started with prostate play.

If you’re the receiving partner - Being as relaxed as possible is key for making the experience as enjoyable and easy as possible. It can help to take a shower beforehand. Some people also choose to use an enema prior to anal play.

It is important to use the bathroom before getting started as prostate stimulation can give you the urge to pee and anal penetration can make you feel like you need to poop.
Knowing your bladder and bowels are empty can help you fully relax and enjoy the experience.

Getting familiar with having your prostate touched can be helpful for relaxing and feeling comfortable with anal play and prostate stimulation. Practicing with your fingers, an anal sex toy, or a butt plug can be a great way to ease into things.

Set up your surroundings to your liking to ensure you are as relaxed and comfortable as possible. This can include engaging in masturbation, enjoying some foreplay, lighting candles, watching porn, turning on music -- whatever you like!

Also, be sure to use plenty of lube to allow for easier, more comfortable penetration or for easy gliding if you are stimulating the prostate externally.

If You’re the Giving Partner

As the giver, safety and cleanliness are important. Keep nails clean, groomed, and filed to protect the delicate skin in the anal area.

Wash your hands thoroughly, even if you plan to use a condom over your finger for penetration. And, yes, some people do choose to wear a condom over their finger when stimulating or penetrating the anus -- whatever makes you or your partner feel most comfortable!

The shower is a great place to get things started -- it gets you clean and makes for some fun foreplay all in one!

Prostate Stimulation Techniques To Try

Whether you are using a toy or fingers, here are some different techniques to try. Remember to experiment with different moves, pressures, rhythms, and speeds. Also, maintain clear and open communication with your partner.

With Your Fingers

  • The Come Hither - With a lubed index finger, insert it into the anus and curl it upward creating a "come hither" motion toward the belly button. Gradually increase speed and adjust pressure according to your partner's desires.

  • The Doorbell - Use the pad of your finger to rest against the outside of the prostate, gently pressing as if you are ringing a doorbell. Use different speeds and pressure and try holding the pressing motion for shorter or longer intervals of time. Listen closely to your partner's desires (or your own if you are stimulating yourself!) and find the motions and speeds that work best.

  • Circling - Using the pad of your finger, circle your way around the entire prostate. Change up your pressure and speed to find the combo that feels best.

  • Simulated Vibration - Any move that is enjoyable can be sped up so fast that it mimics a vibrator, although this can be tiresome on the wrist so you might want to save it for closer to orgasm.

With Toys

If you’re enjoying some anal play with toys, you can really switch things up by playing with the different vibration settings, as well as pressure and depth and rhythm you use.

With a Penis

If your partner has a penis, you can go for penile penetration in the anus. This way, the giver gets penile stimulation while the receiver enjoys prostate stimulation -- and maybe even a happy ending for both involved!

Positions for Stimulating the Prostate or P-Spot

Different positions can make it easier to reach and pleasure the P-spot. The following positions work alone or with a partner, and externally or internally.

Face down

  • By yourself - Lie face down and reach your arm behind you to reach your anus or perineum with your finger.

  • With a Partner - Lie face down with your legs slightly apart and arms at your sides. Have your partner sit next to you and gently massage your prostate.

Legs up

  • By yourself - Life on your back with your knees pulled up towards your chest as close as comfortably possible. Use one of your arms to hold legs in position and use the other hand to reach your anus.

  • With a partner - Lie on your back with your knees pulled towards your chest and held in place with both hands. Have your partner kneel in front of you and perform internal or external stimulation.

One Your Side

  • By yourself - Lie on your side and bring your outer leg up towards your chest while reaching your hand around to your anal area.

  • With a partner - Lie on your side with your outer leg towards your chest as your partner sits behind you and stimulates you as you like.


  • By yourself - Get down on all fours and reach one arm beneath you and between your legs to reach back to your anus.

  • With a partner - Get down on all fours and have your partner gently inserting a lubricated finger or a specialised toy into the anus, aiming towards the front of the body, and applying gentle pressure and movement

What Is Prostate Milking?

Milking the prostate is the act of massaging and stimulating the prostate until a milky fluid comes out. This fluid is known as prostatic fluid and is essentially ejaculate without sperm.

Can I Amp Up Prostate Stimulation Further?

Stroking the penis at the same time as stimulating the prostate can really take things to the next level!

Final Thoughts

If you are curious about anal play, I hope you found these tips helpful for getting started. As with any sexual encounter, safety and consent are key. With the right communication and preparation, anal play and prostate stimulation can lead to intense, mind-blowing, full-body pleasure!

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August 27, 2020 — Rosie Rees

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