Outside of the queer world, it’s often thought that tribbing or scissoring is the epitome of queer sex. When in reality, there are countless other ways to have sex.

But if it is your thing –– tribbing can be super fun and hot! Although it can require quite a bit of flexibility and athleticism.

But part of exploring sexually is finding ways to make things enjoyable and accessible. 

That’s why we’ve rounded up this how-to guide all about tribbing! 

Tribbing 101

If you need a refresher, tribbing is when you rub your vulva on someone else’s vulva or other body parts to stimulate the clitoris. Scissoring is a type of tribbing, which usually involves vulva to vulva or vulva to the thigh.

Your technique comes down to you and your partner’s anatomy. For example, it may be easier to experience pleasure with scissoring if one or both of you have labia minora that are bigger than labia majora. It may also feel more enjoyable for people whose clitoris is more exposed. There are also theories that your height can make a difference too!

While tribbing is typically only associated with lesbian sex or two people with vulvas, couples of all genders can explore tribbing –– whether or not they have a vulva. 

If and when you figure out a way to trib that works for you and your partner, it can be incredibly erotic and intimate, even if you don’t orgasm –– which of course, isn’t the goal of sex anyways!

Explore positions

The great thing about tribbing is that it’s very much a “choose your own adventure” type of activity. There are nearly infinite possibilities when it comes to how your bodies can fit together.

If tribbing hasn’t worked for you in the past, or you’ve never tried it before, here are some positions you can explore:

• Perpendicular: One lays on their back with legs open and knees bent, the other squats over at an angle to line things up in a way that works for you!

• Criss-cross applesauce: This is done by sitting up and wrapping your legs around each other.

• Classic scissoring: Lying in opposite directions which your legs outstretched creating a pair of “scissors”.

It can be helpful to stretch beforehand to prevent any mishaps mid-tribbing. Another reminder that tribbing doesn’t have to mean vulva to vulva, it can mean genital to any other body part or toy!

Try Different Techniques

Once you find a position that feels comfortable and pleasurable, you can start to play with tempo and technique. 

There are so many ways to move when tribbing. Think grinding, gyrating, and rubbing! Caution against pounding as that will likely just lead to a bruised pelvic floor bone. 

Lube is your best friend while tribbing, especially if you’re rubbing up against a part of the body that’s particularly hairy. This Yinn | Water Based Lubricant ($49 AUD) offers sustained hydration and superior glide, and is safe to use with your silicone toys!

 

You can also try this Organic Clit Stimulant ($38.95 AUD). This silky-smooth formula heightens sensitivity, guiding you to deeper sensations with every touch. 

 

It’s important to note that STIs can be spread through tribbing (most are transmitted through bodily fluids), so if you’re with a new partner try using a dental dam or other form of protection.

While not yet approved for STI protection (they’re working on it) Lorals Oral Sex Natural Latex Panties for Protection ($49 AUD) can help make tribbing, oral sex, and rimming more enjoyable!

 

 

Incorporate Toys

Using toys is an awesome way to make tribbing way more accessible and enjoyable for both parties. Luckily for you, we have the perfect toys made specifically for scissoring.

The Eve - Double-Ended Vibrator Dildo ($144 AUD) is designed for couples seeking synchronized pleasure and deeper connection, this innovative vibrator offers dual stimulation with two powerful vibrating ends, with independent vibration controls. 

 

The Alex - Double-Ended Vibrator Dildo ($188 AUD) features two ergonomic, insertable ends - one realistic (penis shaped), and one non-realistic and three strategically placed motors. One in each end and one in the center — for intense, customizable vibrations that can be adjusted to your preference.

 

Both of these are perfect for mutual vaginal or anal pleasure, allowing for easeful scissoring positions or any intimate encounter where shared pleasure is the goal, bringing mutual satisfaction to new heights!

The Raye - Vibrator Grinding Plate ($87 AUD) is perfect for those who love the sensation of being on top and grinding. With its ergonomic design and silky soft silicone, the Raye has two softly ridged humps, allowing for smooth, frictionless motion as you explore your rhythm. The vibrator’s strategically placed motor provides deep, resonating vibrations, giving you full-body stimulation that builds as you grind. 

 

You can put the Raye on your partner’s leg while tribbing or on top of a pillow to have a tribbing-like experience solo!

 

 

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