Variety is the spice of life and that’s definitely true when it comes to vulvas. Just like the rest of our bodies, vulvas come in all shapes and sizesand we’re here for it all.

Cis-women and folks who were assigned female at birth (AFAB) have been told to hide and be ashamed of their bodies. We’re fed ideas about what our bodies should look like, even down to our vulvas (hello mainstream porn).

But we’re in a new era. One of reclamation. Of embracing our bodies. Of fully accepting, and even celebrating every hair, bump, labia, and lump. 

Here’s to celebrating our vulvas, in every phase of life!

The more, the merrier

Like we said, vulvas come in all shapes and sizes. 

Here are just a few of the many variations we see on vulvas:

  • Asymmetrical inner or outer labia
  • Inner labia that’s longer than outer labia or vice versa
  • Lots of pubes to no pubes
  • Large clitorises or teeny-tiny ones
  • Different colors from pink to red to brown to purplish hues

And so many more!

Pussy power

Here’s the thing – if you’re self-conscious about your vulva, it’s not your fault. In fact, any insecurities you have about your body are not your fault. 

It’s totally normal to feel these things when you’ve been fed ideas about what’s beautiful or standard. But as we embrace this era of body positivity, we start to embrace ourselves, every darn inch. 

Sound easier said than done?

That’s ok! It can take time to get to a place of feeling secure in your body. We know it can be a lifelong journey so we’re here to help with a few easy-to-do tips.

Take a look in the mirror

It’s time to sit down in front of the mirror and take a good long look at your lips. No…your other lips. 

The first step to embracing your body is seeing what it looks like up close and personal. You can sit in front of a full-length mirror, grab a hand mirror, or both. 

Move the mirror around, and look at your vulva without judgment. You can even start to touch yourself and see how it changes at different stages of arousal. 

We know it might be weird at first but we promise you’ll start to love the practice (and your body) the more and more you do it.

Explore your pleasure

Now that you’ve gotten to know your vulva visually, it’s time to get up close and personal in a different way…through self-pleasure.

Your comfort with your vulva and your pleasure are deeply interconnected. It can be hard to fully feel every nuance of pleasure when you feel disconnected from your body or self-conscious when you’re with a partner.

But when you get in touch with your pleasure through masturbation or sex with a partner, you start to embrace the power of your body. 

Take your time, we suggest starting with a vulva massage and continuing to explore different sensations and patterns. 

Exposure therapy

When you see different bodies and vulvas being represented, it makes it that much easier to feel comfortable in your own skin. 

There’s a lot more ethical porn out there these days, that’s generally made by females for females. If you’re into porn, these companies do a great job of representing different body types.

Us? We’re such fans of vulvas that we made a whole book about them. Our book “This Is The Vulva” shows everything you need to know that you didn’t get taught at school. This gender-inclusive book contains over 50 photos of a variety of vulvas, sent in by our incredible audience. 

These photos are to help you understand the huge diversity in vulvas so that you can see that yours isn’t “wrong” or “abnormal”.

Remember, you’re beautiful from your head to your toes, and of course – your vulva!





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March 20, 2024 — Natasha Weiss

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