Most, if not all of us, have a little freak in us. 

Even if you’ve yet to tap into them, you probably have different fantasies that have run through your mind. Maybe you’re turned on by the idea of different sensations that may seem a bit out of the ordinary.

We’re here to tell you that kink is a lot more common than you may realize and your desire to explore it is completely normal. Or it may be that kink is nothing new to you, but you haven’t explored it yet in your current relationship. 

Either way, kink is a great way to bring in new sensations, ways to connect, and elements of pleasure into your relationship. 

It doesn’t need to be complicated either. There are plenty of simple ways to bring kink into the bedroom – here are five of them.

1) Set the tone

Before you bring kink into the bedroom, you first need to set the tone. That means making sure you’re both on the same page, talking about desires and boundaries, and taking preventative measures like making safe words.

It’s helpful to have this conversation before things heat up or even in a non-sexual setting. Set aside time where you can create a safe space to talk about all the things.

Here’s what you should cover in this conversation:

• Desires: If you’re not sure how to bring them up you can say something like “I’m turned on by the idea of you using handcuffs on me. Is that something you’re open to trying?”
• Consent: Make sure all parties involved are on board with anything and everything you want to try. Discuss any rules and boundaries you have before things get hot and heavy.
• Establish safe words: Even with enthusiastic consent, things can come up in the moment that feel like they push your emotional or physical boundaries – that’s what safe words are for!

Remember to approach this conversation with open-mindedness, curiosity, and compassion!

2) Gentle restraint play

Restraint play, also known as bondage, is one of the first things that comes to mind when people think about kink. 

The dynamic of submissiveness and dominance (sub and dom) can heighten senses and create a sense of relaxation and catharsis. This is often referred to as “subspace.” Restraint play takes a lot of communication and depending on how you choose to practice it – a lot of skill and preparation

Our Kinky Cuffs ($29.95) are the perfect SAFE alternative to handcuffs for restraint play in the bedroom. Perfect for any beginners to bondage, or just for those who love a little luxury when being tied up!

Made of soft satin with an internal elastic, Kinky cuffs have enough stretch to accommodate different wrist sizes without creating any concern for safety (they’re super easy to remove). If you’re feeling a little cheeky, wear the Kinky cuffs in your hair whilst going out for dinner, and then show your partner later what they are really intended for!

3) Explore sensory play

Sensory play is essentially just play that engages the senses – aka touch, smell, sight, sound, and vision. This means doing something to enhance a certain sense or depriving you of one to enhance the others, like when using a blindfold.

This heightens our awareness, strengthening the brain-body connection and creating intense stimulation. Some ways people explore sensory play is through spanking or using a toy like a crop or if you prefer a softer sensation…with a tickler.

Our Boujee Feather Tickler BDSM ($90.00 AUD) is a sensual and tantalizing tool perfect for exploring sensory play. This tickler features a long, slender handle made of smooth and polished metal alloy, and a delicate cluster of soft and fluffy ostrich feathers at the end.

The gentle and light feathers allow you to gently caress and tickle your partner's skin, creating a feeling of anticipation and excitement. The tickler can be used to tease and tickle all over the body, including the face, neck, shoulders, and even between the toes!

4) Try a little bit of everything

Kink is about exploration and playfulness – so why not try a little bit of everything (ok not everything)? The best way to find out what you both like is by communicating and exploring!

Our Aurora Vegan Leather BDSM Set ($225.00 AUD) lets you do just that. This stylish bondage set includes a collar, cuffs, ball gag, blindfold, hogtie, and spanking flogger, providing a wide range of options for play.

The vegan leather (PU) material is comfortable to wear, whilst still maintaining a high level of durability and strength. The collar and cuffs feature adjustable closures, allowing for a customized fit. The ball gag is made with a silicone mouthpiece for comfort, and the blindfold blocks out light for heightened sensory play. 

You and your partner will have endless tools at your fingertips to explore this new realm of kink! Remember when you’re trying out new kink toys, especially things like the flogger, try it on yourself first to understand what the pressure and sensation feel like before trying it on your partner.

5) Practice aftercare

Just like you need to communicate and establish boundaries beforehand, it’s also important to practice aftercare when you’re done. 

Sexual aftercare is a broad term for the support you and your partner give each other after having sex or practicing kink. Lots of emotions can surface when exploring kink – you may feel excited, emotional, energized, drained, or any combination of emotions.

You can help ground yourself, deepen your connection with your partner, and create a holistic experience by practicing aftercare. Aftercare can include anything that tends to your emotional, mental, or physical needs.

Here are some ideas:

• Cuddling 
• Checking in with each other
• Eating a snack
• Taking a shower together
• Giving each other a massage

Aftercare is part of a holistic kink experience and is essential for bringing you back together after exploring new, and sometimes intense, sensations. 

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