Bringing toys into the bedroom isn’t a sign that something’s missing! It’s a powerful way to amplify connection, curiosity, and pleasure. Yet for many couples, the idea of introducing a vibrator, wand, or butt plug can feel a little... intimidating. Will it be awkward? Will they take it the wrong way? Here's the truth: when approached with playfulness, consent, and open communication, pleasure tools can become a shared language of exploration. Not a replacement, but a delicious addition to your intimacy. It's not about fixing anything, it's about expanding what’s possible.
Ready to rethink what a turn on really looks like?
First Things First: Let’s Talk About It
Before diving into the toy box, the real foreplay starts with communication. So often, we avoid the toy talk because we’re scared it’ll come off as “not enough” or that it might bruise egos. But babe, here’s the truth: inviting toys into the bedroom isn’t a replacement! It’s an enhancement! Think of them as your pleasure co-stars, not competitors.
Try opening the convo with curiosity and playfulness. Here are some ways in:
- “I’ve been thinking about exploring more pleasure together. What would it feel like to try a toy together?”
- “I read about this couples toy that vibrates that could make things even hotter. Want to try it?”
- “Would you be open to picking out a toy together? Let’s see what works for us”
Remember, it’s supposed to be FUN. It’s about expanding what's possible. Pleasure, after all, can be co-created.
Ease Into the Vibe:
If you're new to toys, start slow and soft.
The Bloom Butt Plug
Small, smooth, and oh-so-pretty, the Bloom is a perfect intro to anal play. Whether solo or with a partner. Exploring this area together invites trust, vulnerability, and next-level sensation. Just be sure to pair with lots of lube, breathe deeply, and let curiosity lead.
The Orgasmic MVP
Looking for a toy that doubles as a body-based awakening?
The Sacred Squirter
This wand is a fan favourite for a reason. Curved just right for internal exploration, it’s a powerful tool for G-spot play and even squirting if you’re curious. Use it solo or let your partner use it on you as part of a sensual ritual. You’ll discover quickly, it’s not just a toy; it’s a portal.
No More "Lining It Up"
Let’s be honest: some toys require too much precision. You're there, in the moment, and suddenly you’re trying to line up a vibrator like it's a game of Operation. Enter...
The Mona Massager
This baby has a wide surface area and a delicious hum that hits all the right places, without needing to “vibe the left flap” (ladies, if you know, you know). Perfect for external stimulation, foreplay, or even teasing while your partner watches (or joins in!).
Couple Goals: Cock Rings That Vibe
Want a toy that both of you can feel? Look no further.
The Suki & The Flick
These vibrating cock rings are sleek, stretchy, and designed for shared pleasure. They enhance erections, add clitoral or perineal stimulation, and bring a pulsing rhythm to penetrative play. Think of it as a heartbeat between you both.
The Real Magic: Co-Creation Through Play
Using pleasure tools together isn't just about new sensations, it's about new conversations:
- What feels good to you today?
- Want to try a toy that’s more about teasing than climax?
- Can we explore what arousal feels like without needing to “finish”?
Bring curiosity, slow the pace, and let go of goals. The more present you are, the more your bodies will speak.
Let Toys Deepen, Not Distract
Pleasure tools, when used with intention, can deepen emotional intimacy, build trust, and awaken parts of you that you didn’t know were asleep. They help you communicate desires, expand what’s possible, and most importantly, remind you that pleasure is your birthright.
So next time you're thinking about reaching for a toy, remember: it’s not just a vibe, it’s an invitation to play, to connect, and to experience new layers of intimacy together.
With curiosity & consent,
The YPP Team
Blog Written by Guest Contributor Mikay.
