Intro to Anal Play

So you want to try anal?

Now that we have your attention…

Anal play can be a treasure trove of deep pleasure. But exploring this new *territory* can be a bit intimidating for beginners.

But everyone has to start somewhere and venturing into the great unknown world of anal play is that much easier when you have a map to follow!

We have tips, tricks, and tools for everyone no matter where you’re at on your anal journey. Consider this your intro to anal. That being said, even seasoned pros can learn something new from this intro to anal.

Prep and communicate

Anal play can take a little more preparation than other sexual activities and certainly requires a lot of communication if you’re doing it with a partner. Chat about what you want to try, what your comfort level is, and potentially a safe word if it’s too much (thank you kink world). This can be a super hot conversation and its own sort of foreplay!

While lube is nice for any occasion, when it comes to anal play it’s an absolute must. The anus does not lubricate itself, so not using lube can lead to friction, discomfort, and potential tears and injuries. 

Note that if you’re using a silicone toy you’ll need a water-based lube like this Organic pH Balanced Lubricant. Glass or crystal toys on the other hand can be used with either or oil-based. We even make an Anal Lubricant that’s safe to use with toys and condoms and is specially formulated to promote blood flow and allow for lasting comfort.

While we’re talking about prep, it’s important to touch on safe(r) sex. STIs can be spread through anal play, so if you’re having anal sex with a new partner or have multiple partners, be sure to use condoms!

You may also want to protect your mattress and sheets from any potential mess. May we suggest a Splash Blanket?

Your anal toy guide

A finger or a penis (if your partner has one) can be great, but toys are one of the best ways to ease into anal play. Here’s a rundown of our favorites:

Best for beginner play: The Cupie Glass Butt Plug ($30 AUD). Besides being super cute with a heart-shaped end, The Cupie is the perfect size for beginners or those wanting something a little on the smaller side.

Best for exploring: The Bishop ($40 AUD) is a two-tiered glass butt plug that allows you to explore both a shallow and deeper option. Its wide base is great if you’re concerned about losing it (which won’t happen with any of our products).

Fan favorite: The Bloom is our bestselling glass butt plug for beginners. With its slender neck and tear-drop-shaped bulbous end, it is smooth, sleek, and not too intimidating! 

Prostate play: If you or your partner has a prostate, The Shadow Prostate Massager 3.0 ($53 AUD), is designed to deliver electric, toe-curling sensations – with a generous size and perfectly contoured shape.

Most versatile: The Medusa Glass Dildo Pleasure Wand is known as the ‘double teaser’ of glass pleasure wands, as it can be used for both g-spot and anal stimulation. 

Party time: The Nova Glass Butt Plug ($25 AUD) is designed to gently stimulate and enhance your pleasure – did we mention that it glows in the dark?!

Best for deep pleasure: The Benny ($47 AUD) was created a little longer than our other options for those who enjoy or want to try a deeper sensation.

Playtime

You’ve got your gear, you’ve communicated what you want, and you’ve done whatever prep you deem necessary. Now you’re ready to roll.

We wouldn’t send you out into the world of anal without a thorough playbook – here are some more pro tips:

• Whether you’re using a toy, a finger(s), or a penis, make sure you don’t switch from back to front or you may be at risk for a nasty infection. 
• Lube also helps prevent tears that can increase your risk of contracting an STI.
• Start small, you may even want to start with a finger or the smallest toy you can find.
• Enemas aren’t necessary, but some people feel more comfortable doing one before. You can also use witch hazel or a gentle soap to clean yourself. 
• Explore different positions to find what works for you. The most common ones for anal are missionary and doggy style.

Now get out there and enjoy the world of anal play!

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