Your How-to Guide to Pegging
If your partner has a penis, then they also have a prostate gland hiding in their anus. This treasure trove of sensation can unlock new levels of pleasure when stimulated.
Even if they don’t have a prostate, the anus is full of sensitive nerves that when stimulated, can absolutely rock their world.
You can tap into prostate pleasure with a classic finger or a tool like our Prostate Massager Glass Dildo Pleasure Wand. But if you want to up the ante…may we suggest pegging?
Pegging is when one partner (typically a ciswoman) wears a hot little harness with a dildo and uses it to penetrate their partner’s anus (typically a cisman). While this article is somewhat geared toward hetero couples, pegging is essentially just anal sex with a strap-on, regardless of gender.
So get ready for this somewhat *athletic* endeavor, here’s your guide to pegging:
Have the talk
Pegging isn’t usually something you just spring on your partner in the heat of the moment. It requires a bit of preparation and a whole lot of communication.
We know it may seem a teensy bit awkward at first, so here are some talking points:
“I know you like it when I use a finger to stimulate your prostate, would you be interested in trying something bigger?”
OR
“I think it would be so hot to f*ck you for a change, I’d love to try pegging if you’re open to it.”
If you’re not sure how to bring up the idea of pegging, maybe try showing them this blog!
Once you’re both on board, you’ll also want to chat about positions you’re hoping to try, what you’re both expecting from the experience and if you have a safe word.
Get the right equipment
You’re gonna need the perfect harness and dildo that’s comfortable for both the penetrator and the penetratee.
Our recommendation?
The Harlow Strap-On Vibrator & Harness Duo. The ideal harness for newbies and seasoned pros, The Harlow is the perfect size to offer sturdiness, without being intimidating.
Fantastic for vaginal or anal penetration, the light pink vibrating dildo has five vibrations and a curved panel at the base to rub and vibrate against your vulva and clitoris while you peg your partner.
Using a harness that gently hugs your curves brings an extra level of sensation and satisfaction. Another essential piece of equipment in your pegging tool kit? Silicone-safe lube.
Trust us – you’re gonna need it!
Get warmed up
Start by getting both of you turned on and juicy, however, you normally do that – kissing, some hand action, and/or oral.
It can take a little time to prepare your partner for pegging. After you’re both thoroughly turned on, you can start to massage around the anus, and when they’re ready, use a lubed-up finger to start stimulating them inside.
Play around and see what they like, you can try a “come hither motion”, a slow thrust in and out, or gently making circles inside them.
Pegging time
When you’re both feeling ready to go, you’ll want to make sure your harness is on comfortably, and the dildo is thoroughly lubed up. You’ll probably want to add more lube around their anus as well.
Find a position to start with, you can always switch it up to find one that works for both of you. Missionary or doggy style are both a great place to start.
Have your partner focus on their breathing, start slow, and work yourself up to a pace that’s pleasurable for them and sustainable for you.
Don’t forget aftercare
Aftercare is essential after having any kind of sex, but especially when it’s something new and sensitive, like pegging. A lot of emotions and feelings can come up for both of you in this vulnerable act, it’s important to make space to talk about them.
Aftercare will look different for every couple. Some people may want to cuddle and order take-out, while others may need some alone time.
Pegging can also leave the receiver a little sore, so you may want to keep it moisturized or use an anal suppository that helps heal hemorrhoids.
Enjoy the ride!
One of the hottest things about pegging is the change in the power dynamic. Especially for hetero couples, or ones that are used to having a set “top” and “bottom”.
It’s so sexy to see your partner in a submissive position, and for them, it’s beyond hot to see you in your power, focused on giving them pleasure.
As with anything new, it can take some time to find your rhythm (literally). So take it slow, keep communicating before, after, and during, and enjoy the ride!
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