Do you have wild fantasies running through your mind? You’re not alone.

Sex makes life juicy, deep, and exciting. And those sexual fantasies you catch yourself daydreaming about (or masturbating to) – they’re perfectly normal.

Still, it’s easy to treat them as just that…fantasies.

But you can make your sex life even deeper and juicier by communicating with your partner about your fantasies.

Easier said than done, you say? We get it. That’s why we created this guide for communicating your sexual fantasies with your partner.

There’s no shame in the game

We’re gonna let you in on a little secret. Your fantasies are nothing to be ashamed of. You’re not weird, you’re human with human desires.

On the flip side, your partner would probably think it’s incredibly hot to learn about what’s going on in the dirtiest crevices of your mind. Even if you never actually play them out, just the act of communicating your fantasies to your partner can be its own incredibly hot form of foreplay. 

Some like it hot

Speaking of foreplay…

Talking about your fantasies doesn’t have to be a dry, boring conversation. It probably shouldn’t be.

When you get out of shame and drop into a place of embodiment, communicating your fantasies starts to become a sacred sexual practice. Or at least an incredibly hot way to start revving both your engines.

You can try whispering it in your partner’s ears between sensual kisses or sending it in a mid-day sext to give them an idea of what you’re thinking about at work.

If your fantasy seems like a big change from your normal sex life then you may want to set aside time to clearly talk about what you want, if your partner is interested in trying it, and how you’re going to do that. 

You can learn more about exploring the world of kink here.

Reciprocation is key

You’re not the only one with sexual fantasies. Your partner likely has quite the active imagination too. 

That’s why it’s important to make space to talk about both of your fantasies. Not only is it hot for both of you, but you’re showing equal interest and investment in each other’s pleasure. Who knows? You may have some overlapping fantasies that you’ve yet to explore!

Let your freak flag fly

A somewhat tame fantasy you can start exploring is a sensual massage. We love using our Yoni Elixir Oil for a “full body” rubdown. 


You can even role-play, pretending that you’re at a fancy spa, where things get a little extra handsy. This fantasy has the perfect balance of taboo and sensuality to ease you into kinkier realms.

This is your sex life, and it can look and feel however you want it to. We all have a little freak in us, and chances are – your partner will love seeing this side of you. 

The more you communicate about your fantasies and just let your freak flag fly, the more pleasure and power you’ll feel in your sex life, and your relationship. 

April 09, 2024 — Natasha Weiss

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