Embracing Your Sexual Empowerment: Breaking Free from Shame and Religious Conditioning

Inside the Golden Yoni Membership and the Yoni Pleasure Palace Facebook Group, we regularly see conversations around sexual shame and religious upbringing and its impact on our sexual evolution and empowerment. If you've experienced feelings of guilt, shame, or restrictions around your sexuality, you most certainly aren’t alone. It’s not an easy path to walk, but we're here to guide you as best we can on a journey of breaking free from those conditioned beliefs and stepping into your sexually empowered self. So, let's embark on this liberating path together, filled with self-acceptance, empowerment, and unapologetic pleasure.

Please note: this is not professional advice, and we recommend seeking the support of a therapist for ongoing professional support throughout this journey.  

Recognise the Influence of Conditioning: 

The first step towards embracing your sexual empowerment is acknowledging and understanding the impact of the conditioning you've experienced. Reflect on the beliefs and messages you were exposed to regarding sex, pleasure, and your body. Recognise that these messages were a product of societal norms and personal beliefs and may not align with your authentic self.

Release Guilt and Shame: 

Shame and guilt often accompany a strict or repressive sexual upbringing. Understand that these emotions are not yours to carry. Forgive yourself for any perceived mistakes or "sins" and embrace a mindset of self-compassion. Recognise that your sexuality is a natural and beautiful aspect of your being, deserving of love, acceptance, and exploration.
Some ways to work through these feelings of guilt and shame are Journaling, EFT (emotional freedom technique or tapping), Reiki & Breathwork.

Here are 10 Journaling Prompts to explore your feelings around sexual shame and religious conditioning:

1. How has my religious upbringing influenced my beliefs and attitudes about sex and pleasure?
2. What specific messages or teachings about sex and pleasure did I receive growing up? How have they impacted my views and feelings?
3. What emotions or feelings arise when I think about my sexuality and pleasure? Are there any specific instances or memories that come to mind?
4. What negative or restrictive beliefs do I hold about sex and pleasure? How do they limit my experiences and relationships?
5. What positive or empowering beliefs and attitudes would I like to cultivate around sex and pleasure? How can I actively work towards adopting them?
6. How does shame manifest in my relationship with my own body and sexuality? What steps can I take to cultivate self-acceptance and compassion?
7. Are there any specific events or experiences that contributed to my sexual shame? How can I process and heal from those experiences?
8. How do I define my values and boundaries regarding sex and pleasure? What steps can I take to assert and communicate them confidently?
9. How can I explore and discover my sexual desires, preferences, and boundaries in a safe and consensual manner?
10. How can I cultivate a healthier and more positive relationship with my sexuality and pleasure? What resources, practices, or support systems can assist me on this journey?

Educate Yourself: 

Knowledge is power! Take the time to educate yourself about healthy sexuality, consent, and pleasure. Seek reputable sources, books, podcasts, or workshops that provide accurate and inclusive information about human sexuality. Empower yourself with the knowledge that aligns with your values and helps you understand diverse sexual experiences and identities. The Golden Yoni Membership is a wonderful resource for women. 

Reclaim Your Narrative: 

Take charge of your narrative and redefine what sexuality means to you. Reflect on your desires, preferences, and boundaries without judgement. Explore what brings you pleasure and fulfilment. Remember, your sexual journey is unique and personal. Embrace the freedom to define a healthy and fulfilling sexual life.

Seek Support: 

Breaking free from deeply ingrained conditioning can be challenging, so don't hesitate to seek support. Connect with like-minded individuals, join support groups, or consider therapy or coaching focused on sexual empowerment. Surround yourself with a loving and accepting community that encourages your growth and celebrates your journey. Check out The Golden Yoni Membership or contact the team at YPP to arrange a private session with Rosie.

Practice Self-Exploration: 

Engage in self-exploration and self-pleasure to reconnect with your body and desires. Take the time to discover what feels pleasurable and exciting for you. Self-exploration allows you to reclaim ownership of your body and embrace a deeper understanding of your sexual needs and preferences. When getting started on your self-exploration journey, we love to recommend crystal wands and Yoni Eggs. Rose Quartz is a beautiful and nurturing stone that will support you in cultivating self-love and releasing negative emotions that will likely arise. Check out the Rose Quartz Yoni Egg here and or Rose Quartz Wand Collection.

Communicate and Connect: 

As you step into your sexually empowered self, it's essential to communicate your desires, boundaries and needs with your partner(s). Cultivate open and honest conversations about sexuality, consent, and pleasure. Foster a safe and trusting environment where you can explore and express yourselves authentically.

Embracing your sexuality after growing up in a sexually shaming or religious environment is a courageous journey towards self-discovery and empowerment. You deserve to experience pleasure, intimacy, and sexual fulfilment in a way that aligns with your true self. By releasing shame, educating yourself, and surrounding yourself with a supportive community, you can break free from conditioning and step into your sexually empowered self. Embrace this path with love, compassion, and an unwavering belief in your worthiness of pleasure and joy.