ASK ROSIE: 5 Ways To Turn Yourself On Without Porn

We recently had a Yoni Pleasure Palace follower on Instagram ask on our "Ask Rosie" segment: "How can I masturbate without watching porn?" There's no denying that a few minutes of watching a porn that turns you on can get you from A to B much quicker than anything else. However, if porn becomes a crutch you rely on, it can fast become a slippery slope of reliance, addiction and obsession, not to mention unrealistic expectations. And the good news is, you can masturbate - and orgasm - without needing to watch porn. It may take more time to get to the end destination...but you know what they say? It's the journey that matters most.

Thanks to neural plasticity, we can change the way the brain works and create new "pleasure pathways" in the brain! From a young age we are conditioned to use porn in order to get aroused for masturbation -- particularly young boys but girls are fast becoming more accustomed to porn use. If you're using porn to get off, chances are you're slightly addicted, which means you're going to have to break the pattern.

Three ways to do this is to 1) go cold turkey 2) commit to a 30 day break from watching porn 3) or join a support group (yep, they're out there!) like the Golden Yoni Membership and switch the pattern for another habit, such as the tips below. Whatever age you are, you have the capacity to change a habit, break the pattern and start a new one. It takes time, support and consistency but it works!

The best porn is in your head! Have you ever had an orgasm in your sleep, got turned on from reading a book or got wet/hard just from talking to a crush? That just goes to show how powerful the mind is AND how fantasy plays a huge part in arousal.

The first step is to 1) think about someone or something that turns you on and 2) create a "scene" in your mind with this person or this event at the forefront, and 3) exaggerate it by making it bigger, wilder, naughtier, raunchier.... Find a fantasy that becomes your "go-to". Maybe it's a threesome with someone who you're not meant to be attracted to. Perhaps it's a power/control dynamic with someone in a role of power. Whatever it is, go there shame-free in your mind and enjoy the ride! 

Time to tap into your "auto-sexual" self! Defined, autosexuality means people who are more attracted to themselves than to others and may prefer masturbation to sex with a partner.

If you want to learn how to get turned on and have an orgasm with yourself without fantasy, try this: Firstly, lay down your waterproof Splash Blanket™ in front of a mirror that goes all the way to the floor (if you don't have one, invest in a sexy oversized mirror in your bedroom!). Secondly, lean against your bed or a wall so you can support yourself and relax completely into the moment. And lastly, witness yourself in pleasure.

Whether you're gazing into your own eyes while you massage your breasts and vulva, or watching yourself insert the Sacred Squirter™ slowly in and out, in and out...how can you not turn yourself on. You don't need to watch a porn star to get off - just watch yourself, in all your glory! This is actually a beautiful way to embrace and learn to love your body, your rolls, curves, wrinkles, dimples. Get off on your raw, sexy self! 

Explore the corners of your mind through erotic fiction in audio form. If you love having someone whisper you dirty talk during love-making or you get turned on reading an erotic romance novel...imagine having that in your ears! Try 14 of these sources of seriously hot audio porn and erotica, including the best of the best: Dipsea. Think of it like ASMR for your genitals. *drool*

If you'd love to still watch porn, consider making it ethical. What does that mean? It basically means, pay for it! Do you crush on a girl you follow on Instagram who also has an Only Fans? Subscribe to her OF page. Do you want to watch a porn where you know people have been paid and enjoyed the sex? Check out Make Love Not Porn or Erica Lust's X Confessions for only $11.95 a month!

I know it's tempting to whack on some PornHub and have a quickie with yourself (and by all means still continue to do this if you desire to do so!) but if you have the time at least once a week, create a longer masturbation session with yourself that entails breathing, touching all erogenous parts of your body, gazing at yourself in the mirror, creating an intention expressing sound and going within -- internal pleasure is a gateway to the divine! Check out our Instagram for a recent reel on this here. 

Remember watching people have sex online isn't "bad" or "wrong". This article isn't to guilt or shame anyone as it's healthy and natural to want to see people have sex and get off! This article is simply offering alternatives if you desire to lessen your porn consumption or don't know where to start with how to masturbate without it. 

Enjoy and let us know how you go with this sexploration. 

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