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A lot of women experience pain, disassociation, tension and numbness inside their vagina, making it uncomfortable to have sex, self pleasure or even make it to the toilet.

With sexual dysfunction on the rise and issues such as over-active pelvic floor muscles (vaginal tightness), vulvadynia, vaginismus, prolapse, polycystic ovaries and endometriosis becoming increasingly “normal” for a woman, it’s time we lift the veil on women’s pelvic health and look at it from a holistic point of view.

It was within this bubble of trust and intimacy that I found power in submission; power to explore my physical, emotional, and sexual limits, power to say no to things I was uncomfortable with, and power to express my emotions in any way they surfaced. ‘Submission’ and ‘surrender’ quickly became interchangeable terms for me. Whether it was within a ‘Sub’ and ‘Dom’ relationship, or just the act of submitting to a feeling, I found that I could never do either of these things without surrendering to my most authentic self first.

Do you allow yourself to be turned on by you? Do you give yourself permission to receive sensual pleasure from yourself? Can you make love to yourself? Are you able to muse yourself and witness the artistic sexual genius that is created? OR...Do you seek something outside of you to inspire you? Do you expect someone else to bring you to orgasm? Do you need someone or something external to arouse you?

I haven’t met a woman who is not interested in developing her orgasms.

Orgasm can be just a few seconds peak experience - what I call a "genital sneeze" - and this is what most women who orgasm experience. (Including me, for many years...)